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Not Your Average GLOW Up's avatar

So helpful. Literally EXACTLY what I have been thinking lately. I’ve been working out alot more as of late. Trying to manage my PCOS flare ups and just feel better in my skin. I live in the Bible Belt where pageant culture is the standard of beauty. So my mother thinks it’s ok to constantly comment on my weight. She keeps constantly telling me “well if you just ate less and worked out more” maybe if you “downloaded this calorie tracker” the list goes on and on. I was diagnosed with PCOS this year after my 4th miscarriage and a BUNCH of testing. I’m really not even a big girl. I’m just constantly struggling with inflammation. I’ve found some herbal teas that help tremendously. And I’ve found for me that daily long walks and stretching are far more beneficial for my body then super strenuous workouts that only increase the inflammation. I refuse to do a calorie deficient diet. One because I’ve always struggled with body dysmorphia and that just sounds like a terrible idea that could become addictive and toxic. So instead I’ve been thinking of food as medicine. I’ve been allowing myself to eat as much of the food that is actually beneficial for me and healthy for me as I want. In the last 4 months I’ve dropped 15 pounds. My skin is clearing up. My periods are becoming less painful and more regular and I have a lot less inflammation. So I’d say it’s been a great success

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Alexandra Moreno's avatar

I LOVE that for you!!! 💚 I had a similar experience when I first stopped going to the gym and weighing all my food (I used to work out 5x/week at 5am for yeaaaars lol). It was right after I read the books Health at every size and Eat what you love, love what you eat. I had this epiphany and realized that I had zero idea what the feeling of hunger or satiety was. So I simply started listening to my body without any rules whatsoever. My weight dropped effortlessly. I also got myself out of a 9-year unhealthy relationship that year. So to me, emotional health + psychological health > any sort of diet/workout regimen you could ever implement.

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Not Your Average GLOW Up's avatar

👏👏👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 yaaaAAAaaaaassss babe! I’m so proud of you. That’s amazing

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Megan's avatar

Would you mind sharing the herbal teas that have helped you please?🙏🏼

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Not Your Average GLOW Up's avatar

Oh absolutely! It started with me going over to red note during the TikTok Ban. The Chinese people over there were so helpful….. a super simple and delicious one is gogi berry, ginger root, and lemon. I like to add turmeric… this one really helps with the inflammation in the swelling. Than I have a couple of premade blends I bought in the TikTok shop. You can look up “hormone balancing tea” or make it yourself (ingredients include: raspberry leaf, nettle, spearmint, ginger) … I also bought an anti inflammatory tea (ingredients: olive leaf, echinacea, ginger, elderberry) … I also suggest just sipping on hot lemon water throughout days before your cycle. It helps tremendously. Also tons and tons of ginger. I’ve noticed ginger is a primary ingredient in most of the premade teas that help. But I’ve noticed the most significant weight loss when adding gogi berries

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Emily K's avatar

It could be useful to consider turmeric capsules- I was directed to take these by my GI doctor for an illness I have, and they really help bc it’s way more turmeric than you’d get in tea. Maybe could help with overall inflammation too!

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Not Your Average GLOW Up's avatar

I actually started taking turmeric capsules a week ago. Havnt noticed a huge difference but my thought process was the same as yours

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Megan's avatar

Thank you!

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Not Your Average GLOW Up's avatar

You are so welcome, beautiful soul. If you want. Add me and we can go on this journey together. I’m always up to having a new friend to talk to. We can share what works for us and encourage one another on our hard days

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The Thinking Other Woman's avatar

If it's got caffeine, it has a diuretic effect. A lot of herbal teas don't have caffeine. Not only that, but what IS tea? It's mostly water.

People aren't walking around dehydrated. I hate this insistence that we must, must, must glut our bellies with liters of water every day or we will be dehydrated. What do you think our kidneys are for? Our kidneys regulate water balance just fine. When I have made my fifth trip to the bathroom and notice that the toilet bowl is barely even yellow, I must conclude: I DO NOT NEED TO DRINK ALL THIS WATER. (And: I am sick of going to the toilet every hour on the hour.)

This MYTH about the absolute necessity of drinking tons and tons and tons of water came from an article from the 1940s that wasn't accurate. Oy.

https://medium.com/@drbrettberner/why-drinking-8-glasses-of-water-per-day-is-a-myth-5287f1b2d8f9?sk=v2%2F7551e8a0-6100-45ec-85a1-f665e39aef71

https://medium.com/@robertroybritt/how-much-water-do-you-really-need-to-drink-7a6cf683b211?sk=v2%2Faf4238f2-0f90-4b33-8caa-012d3db63e55

https://medium.com/wise-well/soaked-the-myths-and-facts-of-hydration-8e7f58324086?sk=v2%2F7b953f8a-8395-48f6-bd64-c5892f103ddf

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java's avatar

Agreed, you shouldn’t need to drink gallons of water a day for hydration. Water alone does not hydrate. You need salt which is why in hospitals the IV is saline (salt water). I always add a bit of sea salt in my water with lemon as well. It tastes great and is better for you than just plain water.

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julia payne's avatar

Read sally k norton's book "toxic super foods" high oxalate intake plays a huge role in PCOS...good luck!

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Not Your Average GLOW Up's avatar

Def will add it to my list! Thanks for the suggestion. I greatly appreciate it

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julia payne's avatar

All the women i know who had PCOS were vegetarian....plants are actually quite toxic...the book will shake things up for you...i was eating on average 3000mg of oxalates at a meal and thinking i was eating healthy....now i am done, over a 5 year period, to about 150mg per day....and way healthier...still overweight though. Inflammation can take a long time to heal.

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Eleonora Strijder's avatar

Sounds like a huge success! Must be hard to constantly hear comments on your weight.

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Not Your Average GLOW Up's avatar

It is but I’ve come a long way when it comes to finding my worth from within. So it dosnt bother me quite as much as it used to to. Def have my good days and my bad

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Lea's avatar

When your mom is saying things like that, keep in mind that it’s all projection. She was taught to feel that way about her own body :( you are breaking the cycle!!!

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Not Your Average GLOW Up's avatar

Oh I know that. She grew up in an in incredibly toxic and abusive household….. I speak to my daughters in a very different way….. I build them up instead of tearing them down. The cycle definitely ends with me

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Eleonora Strijder's avatar

That must have taken some work and courage. I admire that.

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Jill's avatar

Was I MEANT to read this because I’m a “big” Asian girly with PCOS too and I love this for you !!!

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M W's avatar

Look up Dr. Jason Fung on YouTube. There’s a hormonal factor at play too. Insulin. If high you store fat. They did a study. Group ate 300 fewer calories than maintenance - they were in a caloric deficit. They injected them with insulin. The average person put on 20 pounds.

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Not Your Average GLOW Up's avatar

Will definitely look into this. Thank you

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Maria Luisa Latorre's avatar

I used to live in the US and have a pretty sedentary job. To make up for the lack of movement, I would go to the gym five days a week and I ate a lot of sugar because ‘I was a good girl and spent two hours at the gym’. I now live in Spain (life is not perfect here and I do miss the US but that’s another story)… I walk about 10 miles every day, I quit the gym and I stopped eating ultra processed and sugary food. I do kettlebell exercises at home and all that keeps me in much better shape than when I lived in Washington DC.

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Butch Laker's avatar

I studied abroad in Spain and our group of Americans (myself included) were shocked we didn’t have access to any nearby gyms. We found a couple close by but ended never going as we were always walking everywhere.

I miss having so much people-centric infrastructure and being able to walk everywhere. I drive to work now and I would give anything to have a nice walk instead..

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Maria Luisa Latorre's avatar

Yep, that is one of the things I don’t miss — having to drive everywhere and the car payments.

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Butch Laker's avatar

If I worked in the same city I lived, I’d bike everywhere. Wish I could bike to work and ditch my car!

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trey 3.449.680189's avatar

I'm surprised you didn't walk much in DC considering how walkable much of the city is

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Maria Luisa Latorre's avatar

It is very walkable, but the weather could be a problem part of the year (too hot or way too cold) not to mention crazy work schedules

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Ken Bromberg's avatar

Lots to like in this article!

But wait a minute, assuming the following quote is true, why is that good for you??? If your body has to reallocate calories away from

these healthy and necessary processes, why is that good for you???

“Ultimately, what this study uncovered was that the body adapts to high activity levels. So when you start exercising more, your body doesn’t just keep burning more and more calories on top of your baseline. It reallocates energy from other processes to compensate.

For example, unseen tasks such as managing inflammation, stress response, and cellular clean-up and repair are all energy-intensive activities.”

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Katie McCarthy's avatar

The implication appears to be that those processes aren't as necessary because the extra activity makes them redundant, if inflammation is lowered to do higher consistent activity levels then the energy needed to manage it can be reallocated to movement itself.

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Never Forget's avatar

If you need that energy to run from a lion the body better pour it into your getaway sticks and worry about the rest later! That's the benefit.

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Ken Bromberg's avatar

You missed my point. The thrust of the article is it’s good to exercise not because you lose weight, but because it’s healthy for you. Perhaps that is true. I am making the point that if you accept the main explanation of the article that the extra exercise doesn’t burn calories, and instead it ends up shunting away energy from critical biological processes, how can that be good for your health.

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Never Forget's avatar

Not being eaten by a lion is really good for your health. Lucky for your ancestors it's innate.

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Ken Bromberg's avatar

Sorry, you are still missing the point. The question is why is exercise good for your health today.

Not why is running away from a lion good for your health.

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Never Forget's avatar

That's not what you asked. Your second post was making up a premise of what the article was about and then asking that. I don't want to discuss your second made up premise. Good bye.

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Lisa John's avatar

This article touches on something that I find very interesting. As someone with health issues, I've never been good at the HIIT style exercises. They make me crash. After a recent experience with post-viral illness, I saw a lot of people in the disability community lamenting about doctors forcing exercise on us that we couldn't do. I now understand how some (not all) of this problem is rooted in this modern cultural context you're writing about. Whether it's the doctors or the patients, many of us have a concept of what exercise should be that isn't actually "humane" (or something). It wasn't until a doctor told me that by exercise, he meant walking one block per day for weeks until I could build up to two... that I realized I had been harming myself because I had the concept of physical "exercise" all wrong. No wonder I couldn't do what I thought other doctors were suggesting I do for recovery!

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Hannah Wilkinson's avatar

Loved this piece so so much, Erin. 🫶

It made me think about my own relationship with exercise and how I’d not lose any weight despite running regular 5/10Ks, and waking up early for spin classes. Compare that to when I started rock climbing and the weight fell off me ~ although that wasn’t the biggest benefit, it was enjoying the exercise itself, that fuelled me with joy and purpose.

I’m walking away from reading this feeling very inspired! Thank you.

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Erin Nystrom's avatar

Thanks for reading, Hannah!

I have a very similar experience: I’m never as jacked/lean as I am when I’m not trying and I’m just doing the things I enjoy. It’s a lesson I have to learn over and over again lol

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April Mensinger's avatar

Having gone through the hormonal shift of menopause and the changes it brings...I feel like my routine was like trying to punch my way out of a paper bag....My takeaway from your post is to move more like a child....on the floor or ground....playing and dancing....

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Erin Nystrom's avatar

YES. 100%

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Stefan Ćirić's avatar

Very interesting, one of the things most seem bamboozled about when it comes to exercise is attitude. It's mostly done as grim duty and as path to future goal instead of enjoyed for its own sake right now. The amount of pleasure any physical activity can bring when done without compulsion is huge. Simple stretching even in the morning or during the day can be enough to see this, provided it's not being done with the intent of getting better or whatever nonsense, just for the sake of it.

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Lisa Mac's avatar

Fantastic article!

It all comes down to just moving to get stuff done and to enjoy, instead of planning movements for the "most benefits". When everything becomes a list or a routine, we suck the joy, and benefits, out of it. Just move!!!!

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Devin Kennemore's avatar

Been saying for a while now that the old paradigm of “calories in minus calories out…” has been completely debunked. It ignores the fact that all calories are not created equal AND that your body has at least TWO powerful ways of metabolizing them. Ketosis being almost completely ignored and yet being the KEY to a healthy body, particularly when combined with intermittent fasting and occasional multi-day water fasts.

Your article about the burning of calories and how it is best done is EXACTLY what I have observed in my own experience. Nothing will kill you faster than a sedentary lifestyle, but you don’t have to go to a gym to avoid being sedentary! Just stop sitting around on the couch! Get out and do stuff! Go pull weeds in the garden, feed the chickens and refill their water! Walk down to the store, and back. And, as you say, dance!

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Erin Nystrom's avatar

Thanks, Devin! To be clear, this really isn’t about “burning calories”. Just the lens with which most of us were taught to view exercise.

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Devin Kennemore's avatar

Right, right. I particularly liked your point about how if a person exercises a lot, their body just adjusts to that and they don’t really burn more calories. That is an insight that has been completely overlooked!

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Libby Walkup's avatar

The element of being barefoot too is important not just for building muscles in the feet that stabilize us, but studies show that wherever our bodies touch earth or other conductive surfaces, our cells right themselves and inflammation goes down to basically zero over time. (The documentary The Earthing Movie describes it better.)

I’ve been swimming in a lake a few times this summer and absolutely loving using my body that way. I suspect this is up there with dancing.

And gratefully come from a family who has always danced together, though I do a lot more of that in my living room than I do at weddings these days.

I’m interested in how to incorporate the squatting and crawling as I’ve been building strength the last six months or so.

Great article.

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Erin Nystrom's avatar

Big barefoot gal 🙋🏻‍♀️

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Star Richardson (Star)'s avatar

To incorporate more squatting and crawling, you might see if there's an Animal Flow gym near you. It does a lot of exactly that - good primal movement that is really good for mobility. You can also find videos online if you wanted to try it in a park or your backyard or something. I've been doing it for about a year and a half and I love it! It's made a big difference in my mobility.

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Libby Walkup's avatar

Nice. I got an earthing sheet for Christmas just to really bring it home. And I swear it’s been the greatest factor in shifting some serious pain issues I’d been having for awhile. As well as going out barefoot whenever I can. Minnesota winter and sensitive skin limits the regularity of this!

And I’ve used zero drop shoes since 2015. I’m certain I’d topple over now in even a regular sneaker. So much padding! Very unstable.

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Liya Marie's avatar

I walk a lot, by choice, and a walking lifestyle ended the depression I had in my 20s. Obviously more complex than that but I do think we are meant to walk, not drive, throughout our days.

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maja roglić's avatar

What about swimming! I always feel best when i swim every day

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Erin Nystrom's avatar

Swimming for sure! I actually go back and forth on whether or not it’s a base-level human movement nutrient or something that we just happen to be able to do. It might also depend on the geolocation of where someone’s lineage adapted? I’m not sure! I just learned how to swim (like, actually swim, not just float around) and it does not come naturally for me lol

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maja roglić's avatar

ahh yes I see. on the mediterranean (in the summer) it feels really engrained to my daily life...been swimming like 1.5 hours a day. never felt better

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Erin Nystrom's avatar

OMG if I lived on the Mediterranean I would be a fish

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Irene Kim (김애린)'s avatar

Same! Swimming in the sea gives me life!!

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Gail Reynolds's avatar

We swim 3-4 times a week for an hour & we definitely feel better all summer. We are almost 70.

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Daniel Diasgranados's avatar

Agreed. love working out / learning new things in the exercise space/intense challenges, but i think there is real joy in doing or performing a movement with a certain mobility that reminds you of being a child again. Adultism/culture at large scorns certain ways of moving as silly, but certain range of motion movements and types of mobility can really bring a specific essential joy back to our collective experience

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Erin Nystrom's avatar

I love that—“adultism”. That’s exactly what it is!

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Daniel Diasgranados's avatar

Yeah. I teach PE to elementary school kids and the teachers I work with often made fun of me/snide comments about me stretching, doing things perceived as odd like calf stretching, range of motion stuff lol, but ironically, it's the thing I teach to kindergarteners to 5th graders – this strange pipeline from being a student learning how important it is to really enjoy being in your own body to adults who lose that and then talk about "things they can't do anymore because their body won't let them" is so real. It's like we've lost the plot somehow... bring back the childlike wonder 2025

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MaryClare StFrancis's avatar

Very interesting, thank-you. I'm disabled and struggle getting around but I walk around with my walker even if it's a painful waddle purely to make sure I keep walking. I can't walk very fast but I walk.

I also garden and I've always hoped that it is considered exercise as far as my body is concerned so this gives me hope. I can't yet sit on the ground but I can bend over to dig and plant.

I keep hoping that the little things I do intentionally like this will count.

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Bucket Mouse's avatar

That's fascinating! And it matches with my experience as a mother, having recently given birth to my fifth child. I think hanging out on the floor with the little ones does wonders for my health; it feels like I'm constantly up and down with diaper changes, playing, tidying,etc.

After my lie-in period following the birth of my new baby, I started a post-partum exercise program, which is designed to restore the pelvic floor and ab muscles and focuses on functional movements. I expected to drop the remaining "baby weight" once I started exercising, but the scale hasn't moved a bit! Perhaps it's because I'm breastfeeding?

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Sierra Tiedman's avatar

Sounds a lot like the work of Katy Bowman!

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Liz's avatar

I love Katy!

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MrsB's avatar

A small example to back up what you’re talking about. I’ve never been overweight but used to have a desk job (10 years ago). I had an “ergonomic “ chair and lived in NYC so I did walk a lot. My back got really bad. It was recommended I get surgery but never did. Then we had kids, and I quit my job after the birth of our first. My back was never bad again, even carrying a baby and toddler up to our 5th floor walk up was totally fine. We had no car and I carried and walked them everywhere, often with groceries or laundry or whatever. We have a house now but still- It’s not hunter gatherer but I move a lot all day, carry heavy things, garden, walk, etc and I’ve often thought that it feels way more natural. I’m not super toned or anything but my body feels way better.

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