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alycia's avatar

I resonate with your World thanks for this post. I feel less alone. I use ti give everything for my friends but when I move, I see that people are just here when you do everything. It's because I was afraid to express m'y truth self.

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Mishi Garcia's avatar

I feel so seen and heard 🙌🏻

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aya's avatar

I feel this so so much and I’m so appreciative that you were able to put what I feel into words.

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Stephanie Mork's avatar

I moved to a new state a year ago (where I thought I would have a community built in with people I knew, turns out they had their own exclusive community) and realized how important community was once I didn’t have it. I have been craving female friendships so much lately and this really resonates - putting yourself out there is hard but it’s worth it!

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Suzanne Heyn's avatar

I've always had trouble making friends and over the years have lost touch with everyone I grew up with. Now I – ironically — live in Arizona and have no friends! I've tried. I truly have, and now I feel like a weirdo because I haven't had a friend in so long that I get into my head about that. So many social situations revolve around alcohol, and I don't drink either, nor do I want to be around people who drink a lot. I wish we could just have a big Substack house party!

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Erin Nystrom's avatar

It’s definitely hard but I’m finding it IS possible- it just takes getting really uncomfortable and putting yourself out there and opening yourself up to rejection.

But THERE SHOULD be a substack house party

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Anna L's avatar

This resonated so deeply! As each year goes by I become more myself and appreciate a smaller group, but man those younger days I felt a similar way looking from the outside at large groups of girls

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Barbs Honeycutt's avatar

Last year I realised having friends is what made me happy, so I made a conscious effort to arrange a catch-up once a month with a different friend. I thought 'I do have 12 people around whom I can meet at least once this year, right?' Turns out, I don't. millennial LOL. but I know how to tweak my expectations now, and when to just suck it and go out alone.

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Outlier Athlete's avatar

This reaches deep into the feels because oh how true it is. Obviously I’ve been on this ride with you, but I feel the same struggle constantly and often wonder if I’m not a desirable friend or if everyone is in the same boat and our culture needs to adjust to better allow us to connect. Who knows.

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Erin Nystrom's avatar

Hopefully, what I got across, is that almost all of us feel this way. But the more we try, the better it will get.

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