I resonate with your World thanks for this post. I feel less alone. I use ti give everything for my friends but when I move, I see that people are just here when you do everything. It's because I was afraid to express m'y truth self.
I moved to a new state a year ago (where I thought I would have a community built in with people I knew, turns out they had their own exclusive community) and realized how important community was once I didn’t have it. I have been craving female friendships so much lately and this really resonates - putting yourself out there is hard but it’s worth it!
I've always had trouble making friends and over the years have lost touch with everyone I grew up with. Now I – ironically — live in Arizona and have no friends! I've tried. I truly have, and now I feel like a weirdo because I haven't had a friend in so long that I get into my head about that. So many social situations revolve around alcohol, and I don't drink either, nor do I want to be around people who drink a lot. I wish we could just have a big Substack house party!
It’s definitely hard but I’m finding it IS possible- it just takes getting really uncomfortable and putting yourself out there and opening yourself up to rejection.
This resonated so deeply! As each year goes by I become more myself and appreciate a smaller group, but man those younger days I felt a similar way looking from the outside at large groups of girls
Last year I realised having friends is what made me happy, so I made a conscious effort to arrange a catch-up once a month with a different friend. I thought 'I do have 12 people around whom I can meet at least once this year, right?' Turns out, I don't. millennial LOL. but I know how to tweak my expectations now, and when to just suck it and go out alone.
This reaches deep into the feels because oh how true it is. Obviously I’ve been on this ride with you, but I feel the same struggle constantly and often wonder if I’m not a desirable friend or if everyone is in the same boat and our culture needs to adjust to better allow us to connect. Who knows.
I resonate with your World thanks for this post. I feel less alone. I use ti give everything for my friends but when I move, I see that people are just here when you do everything. It's because I was afraid to express m'y truth self.
I feel so seen and heard 🙌🏻
I feel this so so much and I’m so appreciative that you were able to put what I feel into words.
I moved to a new state a year ago (where I thought I would have a community built in with people I knew, turns out they had their own exclusive community) and realized how important community was once I didn’t have it. I have been craving female friendships so much lately and this really resonates - putting yourself out there is hard but it’s worth it!
I've always had trouble making friends and over the years have lost touch with everyone I grew up with. Now I – ironically — live in Arizona and have no friends! I've tried. I truly have, and now I feel like a weirdo because I haven't had a friend in so long that I get into my head about that. So many social situations revolve around alcohol, and I don't drink either, nor do I want to be around people who drink a lot. I wish we could just have a big Substack house party!
It’s definitely hard but I’m finding it IS possible- it just takes getting really uncomfortable and putting yourself out there and opening yourself up to rejection.
But THERE SHOULD be a substack house party
This resonated so deeply! As each year goes by I become more myself and appreciate a smaller group, but man those younger days I felt a similar way looking from the outside at large groups of girls
Last year I realised having friends is what made me happy, so I made a conscious effort to arrange a catch-up once a month with a different friend. I thought 'I do have 12 people around whom I can meet at least once this year, right?' Turns out, I don't. millennial LOL. but I know how to tweak my expectations now, and when to just suck it and go out alone.
This reaches deep into the feels because oh how true it is. Obviously I’ve been on this ride with you, but I feel the same struggle constantly and often wonder if I’m not a desirable friend or if everyone is in the same boat and our culture needs to adjust to better allow us to connect. Who knows.
Hopefully, what I got across, is that almost all of us feel this way. But the more we try, the better it will get.