This is everything I’m working on right now! I recently read a great quote by James Hillman. He said basically you want everything now because you can see it now, but time exists because when things unfold over it, it helps us grow into the world (and presumably ourselves). He says rushing is the shadow side of our hopes and dreams, fueled by insecurity that wonders whether what we want is possible for us.
I burned out really bad because of impatience and now I’m learning how to rest into the rhythm of consistency. I’m getting into fitness, and love my walks, Pilates and treadmill (working toward lifting), and it’s teaching me how to stay present as things unfold.
The changes in my body are slow but steady and it’s so rewarding watching them come into view but by bit. Trying to apply that same mindset to my writing, which I have more attachment to but am working to unwind. And like you say, nervous system regulation is everything!
No! Your blog was so beautiful and captured things I’ve been trying to put into words. It helped me clarify things I’ve been thinking but have struggled to articulate.
Oh, this perfectly summarises what I needed to read this morning. I just journalled on the lack of patience I'm feeling to make change, to find my way back to healing, and to re-regulate my nervous system (something I've done before with success, but modern life has a sneaky way of getting back in!). I desperately needed this reminder to just breath, be consistent, stop rushing and wanting things to move faster. It's just not the way! So thank you for this beautiful share x
PS - 'simmering in cortisol soup' has got to be the best phrase I've ever read. It feels like the chemical companion to my frequent claim that I'm 'practically vibrating with feels'!
I love this! Also lol about the acupuncturist being uninformed about HONEY. Here to also add that taking lots of probiotics (if you were to get dermatitis again… hopefully not!) will help as well. I’m enjoying your writing! :)
Patience is a virtue I'm desperately trying to obtain. It's funny that it'll take patience to become patient lol. Kind of meta when you think about it. Thank for being real and for the reminder.
Amen. It’s patience and persistence. I’ve been on my own health journey for 20 years and while I’m finally starting to see some progress, it’s a two stop forward one step backward kind of thing. And gosh can it be frustrating at times! A gentle reminder of how far I’ve come and that I didn’t come so far to give up…
This is so spot on! I especially loved and resonated with what you said about resetting your nervous system. I just finished a No Buy July to work on my bad shopping habits (particularly for clothes and shoes). The month really helped me reset my dopamine system. Now I’m barely interested in buying new things and I can recognise when I’m shopping or browsing out of boredom. If anyone is interested, I shared a little bit about it all in a recent Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/unpopularopinionbymelania/p/women-dont-have-to-be-mothers
my own journey isn't related to my body but my self discipline. Each day I am ashamed when I go back to certain habits but this made me realize that a long as I am making effort, I am in a good place
I love seeing this conversation. You've touched on something near to my heart (with an associated substack draft, even). After being on my own health journey for a while and seeing what real results take, Instagram progress reels have been just irking me lately, disingenuous and trivializing the effort and complexity of achieving something significant. Condensing four years of hard work into a 60-second video—while "*~inspiring~*"—can make it seem deceptively easy, despite any very-real crying pics or ⬇️read the caption!⬇️ with actual good advice.
This is everything I’m working on right now! I recently read a great quote by James Hillman. He said basically you want everything now because you can see it now, but time exists because when things unfold over it, it helps us grow into the world (and presumably ourselves). He says rushing is the shadow side of our hopes and dreams, fueled by insecurity that wonders whether what we want is possible for us.
I burned out really bad because of impatience and now I’m learning how to rest into the rhythm of consistency. I’m getting into fitness, and love my walks, Pilates and treadmill (working toward lifting), and it’s teaching me how to stay present as things unfold.
The changes in my body are slow but steady and it’s so rewarding watching them come into view but by bit. Trying to apply that same mindset to my writing, which I have more attachment to but am working to unwind. And like you say, nervous system regulation is everything!
Ok that’s a much more poetic and succinct was of saying what I was ~trying~ to say lol
No! Your blog was so beautiful and captured things I’ve been trying to put into words. It helped me clarify things I’ve been thinking but have struggled to articulate.
Oh, this perfectly summarises what I needed to read this morning. I just journalled on the lack of patience I'm feeling to make change, to find my way back to healing, and to re-regulate my nervous system (something I've done before with success, but modern life has a sneaky way of getting back in!). I desperately needed this reminder to just breath, be consistent, stop rushing and wanting things to move faster. It's just not the way! So thank you for this beautiful share x
PS - 'simmering in cortisol soup' has got to be the best phrase I've ever read. It feels like the chemical companion to my frequent claim that I'm 'practically vibrating with feels'!
I love this! Also lol about the acupuncturist being uninformed about HONEY. Here to also add that taking lots of probiotics (if you were to get dermatitis again… hopefully not!) will help as well. I’m enjoying your writing! :)
Patience is a virtue I'm desperately trying to obtain. It's funny that it'll take patience to become patient lol. Kind of meta when you think about it. Thank for being real and for the reminder.
Amen. It’s patience and persistence. I’ve been on my own health journey for 20 years and while I’m finally starting to see some progress, it’s a two stop forward one step backward kind of thing. And gosh can it be frustrating at times! A gentle reminder of how far I’ve come and that I didn’t come so far to give up…
This is so spot on! I especially loved and resonated with what you said about resetting your nervous system. I just finished a No Buy July to work on my bad shopping habits (particularly for clothes and shoes). The month really helped me reset my dopamine system. Now I’m barely interested in buying new things and I can recognise when I’m shopping or browsing out of boredom. If anyone is interested, I shared a little bit about it all in a recent Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/unpopularopinionbymelania/p/women-dont-have-to-be-mothers
my own journey isn't related to my body but my self discipline. Each day I am ashamed when I go back to certain habits but this made me realize that a long as I am making effort, I am in a good place
I love seeing this conversation. You've touched on something near to my heart (with an associated substack draft, even). After being on my own health journey for a while and seeing what real results take, Instagram progress reels have been just irking me lately, disingenuous and trivializing the effort and complexity of achieving something significant. Condensing four years of hard work into a 60-second video—while "*~inspiring~*"—can make it seem deceptively easy, despite any very-real crying pics or ⬇️read the caption!⬇️ with actual good advice.
He pushes time, time pushes him. He who allows time, time allows him.